What We Do
Helping families cope with the loss of a child
The loss of a child can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Expectations of joy are replaced by heart-wrenching grief.
Family members, friends and coworkers who have not faced a similar situation may not be able to provide the empathy and support you need. Insensitive comments can cause undue pain.
Sharing your feelings with someone who understands what you’re going through can help you to survive and learn to heal.
You are not alone when you face the loss of a child
- 90,000 children pass away annually in the US before their first birthday
- 30,000 babies are stillborn in the US every year
- 2,500 babies are lost to S.I.D.S. in the US every year
- More babies pass away as a result of stillbirth than all other causes of infant death combined.
- Stillbirth occurs ten times more frequently than S.I.D.S.
Statistics on child loss published by the World Health Organization
What are parents who lose a child called?
“When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them.” – Ronald Reagan
What do parents who lose a child feel?
“We are grieving, We are not contagious, We are not sad all the time, we laugh, we smile, we cry, we weep for being happy, we live, we talk, we feel, we come from every background, we are sad, we lost a baby, we are…” – Jennifer Davis
We can help
We know how you feel, because we’ve been there, and are now here to provide the help, hope, love and understanding you need.
Empty Arms is a non-profit agency that assists families with various resources when dealing with pregnancy and infant loss. These resources include funeral arrangements, photography, counseling referrals, support groups, books, pamphlets, etc.
Our website is designed to be a resource to bereaved families as well as a portal to request donations of time, expertise, and money toward the cause.
We understand your grief because we’ve been there. We know how to help and carry you through this difficult time. We will provide resources and aid to ease your pain.
Get the support you need
We will help you to connect with support groups and parents in your area who have experienced child loss. You can share your feelings with people who will listen and provide the support you desperately need.
We realize that the loss of a child can be an overwhelming experience. It’s not easy to make the necessary arrangements while you’re struggling to cope with your grief.
Please fill out the form below and let us know about the kind of help and support you need. Empty Arms will provide names of burial or cremation services, grief counselors and other support structures in your area so you don’t have to search for them yourself.
Empty Arms is here “helping carry families through pregnancy and infant loss.”
This is a free offer and there are no obligations. We respect your privacy and promise not share your contact details with anyone without your permission.
We Are Here to Support You!
Helping carry families through pregnancy and infant loss.
In honor of Erick, Sean and the many forever angels of this world.
How you can help families coping with infant loss:
What should I do when friends or family members experience infant loss?
You need to reach out to the bereaved family without delay. Acknowledge their profound loss and express your sympathy.
How can I help people who have lost a child?
Spend time with them, find out what they need and try to provide it. For example, you could arrange a meal or take care of their kids.
How can I help them cope with their grief?
Those who have lost a child grieve in different ways. Ask them how they’re feeling and listen to their responses without judgement.
What advice can I offer a bereaved family member or friend?
It’s more important to be patient and listen rather than to offer solutions. Ask them if they have considered joining a support group or consulting a grief counselor.
What should I say to someone who has experienced infant loss?
Show them that you care for them and are there for them. Ask them how they are feeling and listen to what they say without judgement.
What should I not do or say to someone facing infant loss?
Do not stay away or avoid the topic. Avoid making statements like ‘it was God’s will’, ‘I know how you feel’ or ‘you can always have another baby’.
How can I show the bereaved parents that I care?
You can show your affection by holding the person’s hand or by giving him/her a hug.
Should I avoid speaking about the baby?
Tell them you’ve been thinking about their child. If the baby has been named, refer to him/her by name. Listen patiently if they speak about the baby and how they’re feeling.
Which milestones do I need to remember?
Remember to communicate with the bereaved parents on the child’s birthday, Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, etc. Tell them you’re thinking about them.
What support can I provide over a period of time?
Keep in touch with them and enquire about how they are. They may be in pain long after the event, even if they appear to be normal.